{"id":534,"date":"2021-03-10T09:35:03","date_gmt":"2021-03-10T14:35:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/?p=534"},"modified":"2022-01-10T10:19:14","modified_gmt":"2022-01-10T15:19:14","slug":"leading-with-empathy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/2021\/03\/10\/leading-with-empathy\/","title":{"rendered":"Leading with empathy"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><em>Why empathy makes sense for business leaders\u2014and how you can develop this critical skill<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large is-style-default\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"543\" src=\"https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/62\/2021\/03\/business-meeting-1024x543.jpg\" alt=\"Two women have a business meeting.\" class=\"wp-image-537\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/62\/2021\/03\/business-meeting-1024x543.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/62\/2021\/03\/business-meeting-300x159.jpg 300w, https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/62\/2021\/03\/business-meeting-768x407.jpg 768w, https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/62\/2021\/03\/business-meeting-1536x815.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/62\/2021\/03\/business-meeting.jpg 2000w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>By Aisha K. O\u2019Mally <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\"><figure class=\"alignright size-medium is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/62\/2021\/03\/OMally-9-18-200x300.jpg\" alt=\"Aisha O'Mally\" class=\"wp-image-539\" width=\"205\" height=\"308\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/62\/2021\/03\/OMally-9-18-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/62\/2021\/03\/OMally-9-18-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/62\/2021\/03\/OMally-9-18-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/62\/2021\/03\/OMally-9-18-1024x1536.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/62\/2021\/03\/OMally-9-18-1365x2048.jpg 1365w, https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/62\/2021\/03\/OMally-9-18-scaled.jpg 1707w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 205px) 100vw, 205px\" \/><figcaption>Aisha K. O&#8217;Mally<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>In the scholarly world, empathy as it relates to effective leadership is a frequently recurring theme. For example, in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.emerald.com\/insight\/content\/doi\/10.1108\/01437730910981935\/full\/html\">their 2009 paper<\/a>, E. Isaac Mostovicz, Nadia Kakabadse and Andrew Kakabadse emphasize the importance of empathy as a critical focal point for leaders that necessitates continuous work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If we examine some amazing leaders in recent history\u2014John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King Jr., Nelson Mandela and Barack Obama, just to name a few\u2014these individuals are often described as charismatic. But when we dig a little deeper, we see that their levels of empathy, emotional intelligence, commitment, inspirational motivation and trustworthiness were central in making them the remarkable leaders they became.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In today\u2019s workplace, empathy, social skills and interpersonal communication are often undertrained and underdeveloped within companies, creating a trend of leadership that is void of these skills. As a result, we see higher levels of employer-employee abuse that can lead to growing employee disenfranchisement and all that comes with it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ultimately, though, the business world is shifting for many different reasons, including generational changes in the workplace and the recent move to remote work due to COVID-19, which has left many people feeling the pressure from home and work more intensely. Today, it is essential for managers to become inspirational leaders who motivate and support others with emotional intelligence, empathy and understanding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>What is empathy?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>In its simplest form, empathy is the ability to recognize emotions in others and understand another person\u2019s perspective on a situation. At its most developed, empathy enables you to use that recognized insight to improve someone else\u2019s mood and support them through challenging situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In addition, there are three types of empathy:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Cognitive empathy<\/strong>&nbsp;is the ability to understand what another person might be thinking or feeling. It need not involve any emotional engagement by the observer.<\/li><li><strong>Emotional empathy<\/strong>&nbsp;is the ability to share another person\u2019s feelings, thus understanding that person on a deeper level.<\/li><li><strong>Compassionate empathy<\/strong>&nbsp;is what most people usually understand by empathy: feeling someone\u2019s pain and taking action to help.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Looking at these definitions, you might see a little clearer why it is essential for leaders to develop and hone their empathy skill set. As a general rule, people who want or need your empathy do not just need you to understand (cognitive empathy), and they certainly do not only need you to feel their pain, or worse, burst into tears alongside them (emotional empathy).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead, they need you to understand and recognize what they are going through, and critically, either take or help them take action to resolve the problem. Ultimately, empathy enables you to put yourself in someone else\u2019s shoes, but without necessarily engaging with their emotion. Compassionate empathy allows for a little more rational and logical processing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Daniel Goleman, author of the bestselling <em>Emotional Intelligence<\/em>, said it this way: \u201cWith this kind of empathy, we not only understand a person\u2019s predicament and feel with them, but are spontaneously moved to help, if needed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Finding balance<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The goal is to find that \u201csweet spot.\u201d Cognitive empathy involves insufficient feeling and can feel too logical and uncaring by those in distress. Emotional empathy takes us back to childhood emotions, which can make us unable to cope, think and apply reason to the situation. It is difficult to help anyone else if you are overcome by your emotions or theirs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Compassionate empathy allows us to feel another person\u2019s pain as if it was happening to us and therefore express the appropriate level of emotion, but at the same time, remain in control of our own emotions and apply reason to the situation. As a result, we can make better decisions and provide the appropriate support when and where necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Empathy can be developed<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>While empathy seems to be widely acknowledged as a leadership prerequisite, it is a skill that takes time to develop. Empathy doesn\u2019t just happen overnight\u2014it takes effort and a little wisdom that comes with age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To develop greater empathy, work on your ability to:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Be open and transparent.<\/strong> This builds trust, a necessary component of empathy.<\/li><li><strong>Be a good listener<\/strong>, because people want to be heard and understood, and that happens through active listening.<\/li><li><strong>Lead from within<\/strong>. Don\u2019t lead from the front. Encourage collaboration and make sure everyone feels heard.<\/li><li><strong>Show genuine interest. <\/strong>Always take a personal interest in the duties of every individual on your team. This will help you to understand where each person is coming from and what influences their behavior.<\/li><li><strong>Be deliberate about being empathetic.<\/strong><\/li><li><strong>Be patient with yourself<\/strong>. Developing empathy and emotional intelligence requires time.<\/li><li><strong>Don\u2019t force it; just keep learning.<\/strong> People can sense when you are being fake, so be conscious and practice. You will make mistakes, but you will learn from those mistakes and become a better leader\u2014and person.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Ultimately, the world is changing\u2014not just the business world. Our world needs empathy, and all of us need to feel cared for and supported. The first step in healing is to listen and try to better understand each other, so we can help each other. We can do this through empathy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/mgt.buffalo.edu\/faculty\/academic-departments\/organization-human-resources\/faculty\/aisha-omally.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>Aisha K. O\u2019Mally, PhD<\/em><\/a><em>, is a clinical assistant professor of organization and human resources in the <a href=\"http:\/\/mgt.buffalo.edu\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">University at Buffalo School of Management<\/a> and a researcher in the school\u2019s <a href=\"http:\/\/mgt.buffalo.edu\/cloe\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Center for Leadership and Organizational Effectiveness<\/a> (CLOE). A business communication expert, O\u2019Mally studies empathy in leadership, as well as health communication, including patient-provider interactions.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Why empathy makes sense for business leaders\u2014and how you can develop this critical skill<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":197,"featured_media":537,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[53,7,88,81,89,4,25],"class_list":["post-534","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-leadership","tag-collaboration","tag-emotional-intelligence","tag-empathy","tag-inclusive-leadership","tag-inspirational-leadership","tag-leadership","tag-research"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/534","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/197"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=534"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/534\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":660,"href":"https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/534\/revisions\/660"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/537"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=534"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=534"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ubwp.buffalo.edu\/school-of-management-leadership\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=534"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}